The Call of the Ocean

I miss the ocean. The feel of the salt spray which seems to get into your pores seems like a face mask by nature. There is no need for music when you have the crash and hiss of the waves and they hurl themselves on shore and cling with wet foamy fingers to the rocks and sand as they are dragged back to the ocean's cradle. From time time to the wind which roars in an unending crescendo is punctuated by the staccato of a seagull shriek in a measure of three beats. Everything comes in threes. In low tide there is sand , wet, glistening taupe of billions of fine grains and smelling of brine and seaweed and something primeval. In high tide there are the swaths of beach rocks in greys, russets, sandstone, blackish-grey, and white like opaque marbles shot through with silica. So many individuals in shape and size and calling to my eyes like sirens of stone. There is driftwood twisted, scoured, stripped free of bark the white grey bone fragments of trees. Their voices can be felt with the hand like the sound of the ocean in a seashell. Each line once flowed with sap blood and each knot held up a branch in salute to the sun and in supplication to the moon. The ocean which has rocked them with its berceuse, stirred them in its churning and yearning,  has tired of them and cast them shore-ward to snatch fresh fodder from the earth in the tug of war it ever plays. 

Indian Head from Stephenville Crossing, NL 

There are other refugees finding the banks of the sea. Shells; mussels with their blue and white markings like rough pottery, sea urchins like bone pincushions, fiddler crab husks intact or in part their fiddling days gone silent, shark eyes which my mother called conchiloos their spirals inside often exposed like internal staircases with their grandeur eroded, whelks with their unicorn horns, black clams paled to white, scallops as rare as angel wings in pairs. 

Tattered rope frayed in yellow, dull orange or blue- green like locks of synthetic mermaid hair.

Fragments of lobster pots spat up as if in revenge for so many death sentences. 
Broken bottle bits in green brown and white and if you are very lucky in blue. The newer the shinier, but no friend to fingers. The older sandpapered to opacity, frosted to smoothness, almost sugared for the fingers. 

Indian Head St. Georges NL

The Johnny and Jane- come- lately-es : plastic truck wheels, a doll's torso one arm reaching, a piece of CD its disco dancing days past and the pale pink and white torpedo cases of tampons lurking like unexploded detritus to startle the treasure seeker. 

I miss feet crunching over the rocks, Each step bone-jarring, Each step the rocks grabbing at your shoes then receding in small squadrons in depressions that require agility to move on. Their muttering in rock language a challenge and an exhortation to life, to perseverance. 

My Dad with dreams of past and future

I miss the moods of the ocean. Its greenness, its blueness, its green-blueness, its greyness, its inkiness, its almost silverness, A fickle fashionista of colour but always with touches of lace as if she would always be ready with handkerchiefs in times of tears, cold or fine dining. 

Shorelines change with the passage of time, wind and waves, but the ocean is timeless. It calls to us down to our inner beings, Sirens to our very cells and primeval memories. 

Midsummer, Full Moon Approaching and a World Full of Peril: Hope Holds On

      The moon holds sway over the tides and maybe over people. Lunacy is a term coined to express this. " I cannot help, but wonder at the beauty of the moon. It shines down upon us with no judgement of us. Rich, poor, in love, lonely, well, sick: it cares not who we are, but sends its silver beams as magic balm if we will but lift our eyes up, clouds willing. So Shakespeare said:  ....there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." (Hamlet,2,2) Perhaps the moon, "the inconstant moon, that monthly changes in her circled orb",is too maligned when we thrust upon it responsibility for our own shortcomings and lack of moral strength. (Romeo and Juliet, 2,2) 

 There has been so much violence and loss in the world lately with many shot as in Orlando and Nice and Turkey, and others with targeted shootings like the mother, Sara Baillie, and her daughter,Taliyah Marsman, in Calgary just this past week, police shootings on both sides and the "honour" murder of  model Quandeel Baloch by her brother in Pakistan. We mourn those lost and promise to not forget, but so many do forget as time passes and the next wave of violence hits somewhere else. I went looking for quotations to inspire me and found these: 

“The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair, and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.” 
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
“This is the lesson: never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never—in nothing, great or small,
large or petty—never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to force;
never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.” 
― Winston Churchill“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” 
― Dale Carnegie“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it--always.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi
So I will look up at the moon tonight and think of all those I love all over the world who look upon the same moon whether it is at the same moment I gaze at it or not. The moon links us all in the coolness of its light which sets the stars off like an opal amongst diamonds. What beauty and love there is in this world. I will hold to that.  

Beginnings, endings and in between

The biggest beginning I am part of is in welcoming my grandson Remi to our lives. Though he is still just two weeks old he has already worked his way into our hearts. When I see him or hold him the feeling of love, pride and protection I have is indescribable. I have felt it twice before in this intensity with the birth of each of my daughters. My mother said upon holding her first grandchild, my daughter Samantha, that it was the same as holding your own baby. My grandbaby is a child of my heart and in his veins through my daughter flows the blood of all my ancestors, my husband's ancestors and Remi's father's ancestors. I am grateful to be so blessed with the beginning of my life as a grandmother. I look forward to the wonder of being part of his infancy and childhood and to seeing the person he will become and celebrating his successes and his wonder. He is, like all babies, a beautiful mystery to be revealed little by little. So I must thank my daughter, Samantha, and my son-in-law, Mikhail, for bringing him into this world.

Where will these feet bring him in life? 

In his mother's arms so loved.

   This, too, is the beginning of my summer holidays. I am so tired and so grateful to be on a break. There are many students I have said good-bye to-some for the summer-some maybe forever. Beginnings and endings.

As I grow older and I know more and much less. I see that there is much more of the in between in life. Beginnings and endings are not as clear cut as they once seemed. Love can be never-ending. That is when it lifts us, and holds us, maddens us, incites us, strengthens us, excites us, inspires us and ever grows and changes with the core holding us firmly anchored one to the other beyond distance earthly, in time or dimension. Love can almost end when givers grow unkind with a pain like losing limbs. At the time you do not know if you will withstand it, but you do. It leaves a scar like a knot that was once a branch of a tree. There is strength in a knothole and a beauty in its poignant ghost of a limb. At 53 I am still discovering who I am, still learning and ,hopefully, still seeing, listening, tasting, touching and feeling with the same wonder of a child. When I get overwhelmed by the suffering, the violence, the poverty, the intolerance, the injustice in the world I look for the beauty wherever it is. That takes renewed practice each day. That takes a lot of effort and determination some days. I will be old the day I stop looking and seeing and learning.   I never want to get old in the heart and mind.

A trio of men who lit the world and leave us legacies.

Today we learned about the passing of Mohammed Ali, born Cassius Marcellus Clay. I'm no fan of boxing, but this man was remarkable and has left an impact upon us far greater than the number of World Championships he won or his Olympic medal.
I will let his words speak for him:
"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth."

“It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.”

“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.”
"A man who views the world the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'”

“If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.”

 "I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was."

 "Hating people because of their color is wrong. And it doesn't matter which color does the hating. It's just plain wrong."

“I’ve wrestled with alligators. I’ve tussled with a whale. I done handcuffed lightning. And throw thunder in jail.”

 “Live everyday as if it were your last because someday you're going to be right.”

I was impressed how he stood up for what he believed and was stripped of his heavyweight title and banned from boxing for three and a half years because he refused to fight in the Vietnam War ans was convicted of draft evasion. After 31/2 years the Supreme Court of the United States ruled in his favour. I cannot see any athlete taking such a stance today at such personal cost. He said this: “Why should they ask me to put on a uniform and go 10,000 miles from home and drop bombs and bullets on brown people in Vietnam while so-called Negro people in Louisville are treated like dogs and denied simple human rights?,” 
After his boxing career he devoted "his life to helping promote world peace, civil rights, cross-cultural understanding, interfaith relations, humanitarianism, hunger relief, and the commonality of basic human values. His work as an ambassador for peace began in 1985, when he flew to Lebanon to secure the release of four hostages. Ali also has made goodwill missions to Afghanistan and North Korea; delivered over $1 million in medical aid to Cuba; traveled to Iraq to secure the release of 15 United States hostages during the first Gulf War; and journeyed to South Africa to meet Nelson Mandela upon his release from prison.Look here for more of this. 
So another icon has passed away this year. We are grateful for the many gifts he has left to the world. 
We have lost David Bowie and Prince as well. 
“I'm a real self-educated kind of guy. I read voraciously. Every book I ever bought, I have. I can't throw it away. It's physically impossible to leave my hand! Some of them are in warehouses. I've got a library that I keep the ones I really really like. I look around my library some nights and I do these terrible things to myself--I count up the books and think, how long I might have to live and think, 'F@#%k, I can't read two-thirds of these books.' It overwhelms me with sadness."
--David Bowie

“Heathenism is a state of mind. You can take it that I’m referring to one who does not see his world. He has no mental light. He destroys almost unwittingly. He cannot feel any Gods presence in his life. He is the 21st century man.” 
― David Bowie

“Gentleness clears the soul
Love cleans the mind
And makes it Free.” 
― David Bowie

David Bowie, star-man, we thank you for the music and the inspiration. Bowie Interview

From Prince of the Purple Rain: 

"As human beings we suffer from an innate tendency to jump to conclusions; to judge people too quickly and to pronounce them failures or heroes without due consideration of the actual facts and ideals of the period."

"There's always a rainbow at the end of every rain."

"What people have to realize is that if one has a firm belief in God and the spirit then one does not make statements that are negative and untrue." 

Prince Rock and Roll Hall of Fame

We are left in the wake of three men who performed and who touched people in their different ways, with great gifts and great conviction. 

Thank you to Mohammed Ali/Cassius Clay , David Bowie/Jones  and Prince Rogers Nelson. Three men which passion, vision, determination and faith who made the world a better place. 

Family: we're in this together whatever comes our way.

Hamlet says of his uncle Claudius, who is also his step-father: "a little more than kin, but less than kind". Family is always kin and there is always love, no matter its manifestation exuberant or shadowed, but the kind part is dependent on so many things.
Lets start with the good, the immutable.

• Love. It's not all happy ever after, not for parents and children, nor for spouses, nor aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews nor cousins, whether full or removed once, twice or wished-for removed. In-law love may take root, or not, but at the very least it seasons the other loves in our lives. Love is pervasive. Its roots go deep into our souls. The droughts, fires, freezing, earthquakes, floods of life may alter them, but they persist on deeply, seeking sustenance, nourishing us with green plenitude or spindly sourness, but nourish it does just the same. It cannot be beaten by any force. Not even death, the ultimate divider, can hold it off bleed us as death will. Love is forever. 
  

• We are never alone. We may have family members whose pain and suffering isolate them from others or we may do this ourselves in an attempt to scar over the pain of loss, grief, guilt, shame, disappointment or deep-worry; we can never isolate ourselves from the roots of love, both earthly and divine. Our family runs in our veins, warm sap passed on generation to generation by our ancestors whose unseen presence and unheard prayers whisper comfort, strength, tears and hope to us, unobserved, but powerful. No dam lasts forever because water, like love, will erode any barrier over time. So it is with the love of family. 

• We have a shared history. There is joy and comfort in knowing the stories, the jokes, the trials, the triumphs, the challenges, the losses, the people without having to explain everything. When you are away and come back you just pick up where you left off with them. In the meantime every phone call, every card, every letter, every picture means more. 

• We have each some of our loved ones in us. We share the memories. Where one person forgets, another remembers, so as much as possible is preserved and so we collectively make a mosaic picture as a family. We get know those who have gone before us who we have never met. We get to hold onto more of those we have lost. We get to see them in a glance, a laugh, a tip of the head, a saunter in a walk, a nervous tick, a singing voice, a speaking voice, a way of moving and many little things we never notice until they resurface ephemerally in a family member like soap bubbles on the wind. 

• We belong. We may be the life of the party, the funny one, the musical one, the storyteller, the great baker, the misfit, the black sheep, the embarrassing one, the peace-maker, the hard-worker, the quiet one, the chatter box, the hunter, the sewer, the keeper of the pictures, the keeper of knowledge, the confidante, the walker of hills, the gardener, the hewer of wood, the builder, the traveler, the teacher, the elder, the youthful, the wise one, the giving one, the needy one,  the joyful, the depressed, the hurting, the innocent, the faithful, the lost or the found but we all belong . We have membership by birth and it cannot be revoked, though we can choose to never revisit it in person it lives in our dreams. 

  
  

  We are dancers, and dreamers, tad pole explorers and hand holders
  

  
  

  There is, too,  the not so good. It comes as a package deal. You don't get to pick and choose what parts you want and what part you want to eschew. 

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

  Our genes are ours at the moment of conception. Learning problems, clumsiness, mental illness, a time bomb of cancer, of Alzheimers, of Parkinson's disease, of M. S., of heart disease, of diabetes  and many more, a propensity to obesity, to addictions, a mutated gene, a congenital defect any of these may be destined to be ours in the lottery of family genes along with all the desirable ones. There's no betting on it, no bargaining, no cheating, no trading. 

  
  

  
  

•  We parent the way we were parented for the most part. We may be lucky to have been passed a chain of careful nurturing and kind instruction from parent to child to parent to child. Many of us are passed a chain of abuse, poverty, neglect, uncertainty, doubt like wind and storm that may twist our limbs, snap them off or even destroy us. Many of us are passed some of each. The love showing like sunshine, mildness and warmth  and mental illness, addictions, hopelessness, abuse so many storm clouds bringing hurricane winds, ice pellets, driving snow like teeth, rain torrents like vertical drowning. Whether you grow straight, you grow crooked, or you are stunted depends on family. 

We may carry burdens together, hold hands, struggle to catch up, tame bears, or carry someone on our backs, but together we thrive.

• Familiarity may breed jealousy where the clear glass of our child hearts has been smudged, cracked, chipped or even broken. Where positive attention has been lacking, where potential has been neglected, where confidence has been eroded, where self-doubt has taken root in the arid, stony soil of neglect and violence, there jealousy and resentment and a sourness of view may thrive where there should be joy in the accomplishments of our blood loves, our loved ones. 

There is, however, always love. The universal truth is love and hope and belief and education are the gates that can lead us there to an unshadowed love. 

“You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.” 
― David W. Earle

One in five people in Canada suffers from mental illness. Explore this further if you wish. That means so many families are affected by this. I have always lived with this in my family. It has made me who I am and I would not trade away any of the challenges I have known, because I would not be so strong as I am, nor so able to appreciate life so much, nor so able to see how much light there is amid the darkness, to feel empathy so deeply, nor hope so strongly. That seems to me I got the best amidst some sad, painful experiences because love will find a way through as it did in my family. I have to agree with Rumi: “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”  

So we see that the good and the not so good about families is part of the same whole. We're in it together. Together we can triumph, grow stronger and every generation better our children's lives more, nurture more, celebrate all of life more. We must tell our family stories, the dark  as well as the light, so that we learn to lift our children above the past to new heights, without ever forgetting it or letting them forget. To forget is to weaken the appreciation of the gifts we have, to forget the love and the sacrifices of those who have gone before and to forget to be thankful and humble and aware and realize that we stand in the love of our families and on the shoulders of those who have gone before be they bent or strong. If we forget to remember how empty the gifts we have and will pass on. 

You can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.-Frederick Buechner

Montréal 2016

5 days in Montreal under cloudy skies for the most part with sun in our hearts and a much needed respite from the slings and arrows of outrageous, or even capricious, fortune. We stayed in the Auberge Bonaparte on Rue Saint François- Xavier.

Our welcome hotel the Auberge Napoleon

One of the highlights for us was in staying in such nice surroundings in le vieux Montréal.

We realize how lucky we were to be able to do this. I know so many people who cannot do this for one reason or another. The old bricks and the old catch on the deep window made me feel how ephemeral our existence is. I could almost hear the century old footsteps and voices and imagine the touch of metal and brick beneath so many hands. I felt adrift in time. A day or two later we came upon a plaque in Place d'Armes commemorating Paul de Chomedy, Lord of Masionneuve for having killed the Chief of the Iroquois with his own hands. It made me think of the original inhabitants of the area who do not seem to be commemorated at all except in touristic stereotypes. I must have been upset because the only picture of his statue I took is as an aside to the picture I took of Notre Dame Basilica.

Plaque celebrating the  murder of the "Indian Chief"

Stereotyping 

On the same day as I took this picture we came across a monument to the "prisoners of opinion " arrested during the FLQ crisis in 1970. The end of this plaque says history will give them justice. I wonder when First Nations people will have justice. I wonder, too, if there is any awareness of the irony in the fight for justice and independence amongst the Québecois when the rights and lives of First peoples have been so trampled for so long by those who lament oppression at other hands.

Life goes in a chronological fashion, but we remember it in sporadically as we get sensory or emotional input or sometimes as we try to explicitly remember. There are things we would like to forget, but they come unbidden into our active thoughts or, if we fortify against them, they invade our dreams. There are many memories we would cling to, especially of people we have lost, These may linger, but like pieces of puzzle the whole picture is incomplete  and try as we may we cannot retrieve the cadence of voice, the exact sound of laughter, the exact words, touch, place or time. If we are lucky, sometimes a glimpse creeps into our dreams like a mirage of emotion. I will then abandon myself here to a random order of sensations and impressions.

There are so many messages in the statues of Montreal.

Robbie Burns and Modern Art

Les vedettes des canadiens 

Queen Victoria in shadow, King Edward VII and Ste. Marguerite Bourgeoys
and a modern horse and rider with Matthew posing

A juxtaposition: Réné Lévesque. Sir Wilfred Laurier below,
 top right an English snob and a French poodle and iconic Québec art

We visited the musée des beaux arts and saw the exhibition on Pompeii, one on Napoleon and some amazing modern art and antiquities. We met out niece Miebet for a nice lunch. We really enjoyed our visit with her and touring the museum with her after lunch. The museum was a kaleidoscope of experience and emotions.

 Here is some of the statuary and other art from the city of Pompeii.

Bust of Drusus Major and garden statue of a maiden

Isis with Greek features (fecundity, rebirth), the hand of Sabazios ( good fortune, fecundity)
and Pliny's quotation. 

Male youth and woman in the garments of the time.

Tile fragments and frescoes.

Gladiators, theater symbol, portrait and garden bust

 The introduction to the moving resin casts of the people who died after Mount Vesuvius' eruption began with a cast of a dog, guardian to a home with a backdrop of a computer animated eruption sequence and the sound of a barking dog. It was very lonely sound and very moving. The child and man casts below show the same sentiment of isolation at the moment of death. 

These pictures are hard to see and in seeing the casts one cannot help but pray that they have been at peace despite the horror of their deaths. I should need no reminder that every day is a gift, that every person who loves us is a blessing and that every moment counts, but these frozen images of people from 1937 years ago have the power to humble and to slow the rapid pacing of our thoughts.

This is a half loaf of bread carbonized in Pompeii. I found it eloquent. 

Thankfully Matthew provided some comic relief.  Do not worry it appeared to be made of paper!

We saw a sweet exhibition which Miebet and I loved with Australian songbirds landing on electric guitars hooked to amps to make sound art. We were not allowed to take pictures when we were in the exhibition, so these I took through plastic glass with my zoom lens to give you the idea. Matthew prefers his electric guitar to rock rather more. :)

Later that evening we had a different sort of cultural experience when we went to see the Montreal Canadians play the Florida Panthers at the Bell Centre. Montreal did not play well ( lost 4-1), but we enjoyed ourselves as did the fans there. 

Warm up and pre-game stuff. The mascot is Youpi. 

Fans in their hockey sweaters and the strange cheerleaders that I found to be evidence of sexism in their mini-skirts.  

Time out for food, glorious food. We ate all sorts of food and loved it all. Here is a collage of food.

Here are some shots of the architecture.

Chinatown had bright colours, but I wished they kept the gates in better repair. One of the lions had black fill in its toes which seemed to have been vandalized.

More shots from outside. We never got tired of looking. This is Place Cartier and the Hotel de ville.

We took refuge in the Hotel de ville as the skies grayed and then it poured. 

The interior of the Hotel de ville. Note the curved door and the beautiful stained glass in the meeting room. 

We attended noon mass on Monday in the chapel at Notre Dame. It burned down in 1976 and they restored it beautifully to be a place of golden light.

Notre Dame speaks for itself. 

Votives - the far white one in the right hand picture I lit for family and friends.

Holy women with children.

Our visit to the Biodome was disappointing except for the beauty of the birds and fish. I was very upset at how little space  some of the birds were given, especially the birds in the Northern habitat. The poor puffins couldn't even fly. 

Four of the luckier birds with larger habitats. The diving birds were amazing. 

Parrot and penguin pairs two opposite habitats.

Habitats - some are from the Botanical Garden which we liked much more. 

Bonsai- the one in the middle is 110 years old. 

Couldn't resist these flowers. 

We were lucky that it was release the butterfly day. 

The Chinese garden in winter. 

The two of us.

We really enjoyed our trip. Here we are waiting for our taxi to take us to the train station. How very lucky we are. What a trip it was filled with so many experiences: language, beauty, time together, food, culture, entertainment, history, natural wonders, faith, and happiness. We feel blessed.